"Life happens when you're busy making other plans." John Lennon
"The best laid plans of mice and men often go awry." John Steinbeck
I found it interesting that two of my favorite famous people both addressed the issue of planning. Growing up and well into adulthood, one of the nicknames that followed me was ''Patty Planner". I suppose I needed the security of knowing what was going to happen at some point in the future, never realizing how tenuous the act of planning can be in reality. Most times my plans became great expectations and when those expectations didn't occur just as I had them mapped out, I felt devastated by the results. Of course, it would be just as ridiculous not the plan at all and ad lib life totally, but planning ahead as I once did ranks alongside a grand production of the Theater of the Absurd.
It has now been several days since I first started this post and no truer words were ever written. Ernie experienced severe dehydration, his radiation therapy was halted for now and he is in the hospital with IV hydration. These were not the plans for this week, but they are now the plans for this week and so life continues.
As caregiver, I have just shifted and tweaked my reality to accommodate daily drives to the med center with hope that 'this too shall pass' as so many other episodes have over the past five years. The root cause has been determined as an infection, so there is a solution.
I have learned through experience to be prepared to accept changes on a daily basis if needs arise and not allow frustration and anger to enter into the day. If I remember to stay in the day and in the moment, when changes occur, I seem to be able to accept them more easily. At least that has been my experience.
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